~ Curious Charlie ~

A Gentleman's Thoughts on How to Get the Girl/Guy @ Thursday, September 08, 2016

Finding 'the one' after losing mine over a year ago I do ponder how it happens. Like do you just do your own thing and you'll bump into him? Or do you do what my mother does? Aims for the target. For her it's a well planned marketing campaign, finding out where you might find eligible men ~~of noble birth~~ and their natural habitat and hangouts. The clock is tickling, to grab a partner and settle before all the good ones are gone. Though like college offers there's always round two, the divorced ones.

But once you've got your eye on someone what should you do?

That's where this article comes in from a-gentleman-thoughts.tumblr.com - we're a fan of his writing and style. Not much is known about him, I did reach out but there was no reply...

For Her
(though all these things can be used by a guy too)

Love yourself. - A guy is much more likely to notice a girl who loves who she is and who’s proud of herself and the way she carries herself. If you look like you’re already happy with yourself and your life, then the guy will want to be a very large part of it. If you seem desperate to find a guy to make you feel whole, you’ll be much less likely to attract any man that comes your way.

Catch his eye.- If you want the guy to notice you, then you should hold his gaze for just the right amount of time. Don’t longingly stare into his eyes for hours — just keep eye contact for a few seconds to show him you’re interested. Don’t look too eager, but let him see that you’d be open to talking if he approached you. You can even give the guy a little smile to show that you want to see where this goes.

Flirt. - Once you’re more comfortable, you can start flirting with the guy. Tease him a little bit, and let him tease you back — show that you’re comfortable enough with yourself to let him poke fun at you. You can play with your hair a bit or even lick your lips to draw even more of his attention to you.

Be positive. - Now that the guy has noticed you, you have to make sure that he wants to keep talking to you and appreciates the unique and amazing person that you really are. You should be yourself, but you should also work to maintain a positive vibe and to stick to topics that are uplifting, funny, and light. Also, don’t complain about silly stuff, at least, not for now.

Be engaging. - You should not only be positive, flirty, and fun to talk to, but you should actually be interesting. Keep up a good conversation by showing off your sense of humor, being a little bit silly, or mentioning something interesting you read or saw in the news that could lead to a good conversation.

Find common ground. - A sure fire way to get him to keep talking to you. Whether you find that you love or hate the same sports team, spend your summers in the same place, or love the same band, this is something that can keep you talking for a long time and can open up other avenues of conversation.

For Him

Be charming.- You don’t need to charm her just yet. But be charming in your behavior and the way you speak to everyone else. Know your manners, speak with grace and have a warm personality.

Groom yourself. - The art of grooming is the thin line separating the average guy from a great guy. Most guys dress well, but they don’t really look or feel like a million bucks. Grooming is to a man what fine tuning is to a car engine. It’s alright by itself, but a few tweaks can make a serious difference.

Laugh and smile. - Girls are attracted to happy guys. After all, happy guys make great fathers and are more fun. Be cheerful and have a sense of humor. But at the same time, respect yourself and don’t ever let anyone take you for granted. No girl would like a pushover who’s taken lightly by other guys.

Compliment her. - Good compliments are the way to a girl’s heart. Girls never forget a genuine and appreciative compliment. If you want a girl to think of you, tell her something nice but lace it with a sexual remark.

Be chivalrous around her. - Behave like a real man around her. Be dependable and make her feel protected around you. When a girl feels safe around you, she’ll love spending time with you. Just a word of caution, don’t get into her friend zone by accepting all her demands or behaving like a doormat around her. Always respect yourself.

Make her laugh. - Build your sense of humor by having a cheerful approach towards life. You don’t have to behave like a clown though. Just be yourself and bring humor out of circumstances around you.